Many bosses, ministers, coaches and teachers tell a young man how to get out of his problems and to be “normal” again. A true mentor or initiator guides a young man into his problems and through them, which will always feel a bit muddy and messy, but also wet and wild and wise. The mentor will lead a man to The Center, and to his own center, but by circuitous paths, using even his two steps backward to lead him three steps forward. It looks wild, but it is really the wisdom path of God.
—from the book From Wild Man to Wise Man: Reflections on Male Spirituality by Richard Rohr, OFM