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The Joys of Fatherhood

In the dark of night, my eyes opened. Before I knew what was happening, I found myself sitting up in bed and swinging my legs to the floor without really waking. Then, as I made my somnolent way across the room and out the bedroom door, I heard it—the sound that had filtered into my brain and kicked me into motion while I slept. 
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Parenting Paralysis: What's Changed About Raising Children?

In this excerpt from Being a Grandparent: Just Like Being a Parent … Only Different!, Dr. Ray Guarendi answers a question from a concerned grandparent. I don’t recall questioning my parenting like parents do these days. My daughter has more self-doubts raising her six-year-old son than we did with all five of our children. What’s changed?
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The Search for Real J.O.Y.

    Our pope has a huge amount of Twitter followers. We’ve seen him pose for plenty of selfies with Catholics of all ages during his papal audiences and during his travels. Taking selfies can be a good and a wholesome thing and can even promote the joy of the Lord. It’s all in the intent and the approach. Looking at selfies through the lenses of faith and the eyes of Christ will keep us grounded morally, spiritually, and legally as well.
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Advice for Parents: Let Siblings Work It Out

  Let’s say I’m a nine-year-old boy. My sister is six. I’m bigger, stronger, and feistier. Is it in my interest to accommodate? Or would I be inclined to solve conflicts in my favor? Is self-love stronger than sibling love? Can you imagine my nine-year-old self saying to my sister, “OK, Harmony, let’s try to work this out. Since I’m the big brother, I will sacrifice. You play with the Legos first, all by yourself, for the next fifteen minutes. See, isn’t that better? And Mom can enjoy her nap.” If by some quirk of nature, you have a child like this, I’d say let him solve all conflicts. In fact, I’d say let him raise himself—and his sister, too.
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Live the Example and Children Will Follow

Walk the talk. Show, don’t tell. Values are caught, not taught—all variations of one theme: A good example is essential for good parenting. No doubt, if you don’t strive to live what you give, who knows what you’ll get? Like heat-seeking missiles, kids lock in on inconsistencies and double standards. Rare is the parent who has never been accosted with, “Why do I have to if you don’t?” or, “You tell me to show you respect, but you don’t show it to me,” or, “Maybe you should look at yourself.” Owww.
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Let Children Express Themselves

 
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Advice Worth Ignoring for Families

  Smart people learn from their mistakes. Smarter people learn from the mistakes of others. The smartest people learn from good advice. A pithy observation. Also, it would seem, good advice. No one learns solely from his own experience. If he tried, he’d find life a lot more frustrating, and perhaps a lot shorter. All of us learn, for better or worse, by others’ guidance. The aim is to get better at separating good guidance from bad. 
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My Son, My Hero: A Father's Day Reflection

Image: ZQ.ow, flickr. When my wife, Vicki, and I were told that our son, Brandon, had a severe case of autism, we were stunned. This was a little boy who knew his alphabet at 18 months and spent hours looking at books. Vicki and I pursued all sorts of therapies and cures. We even took him to Lourdes in France five years ago. But nothing seemed to help.
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Seeing Teens for Who They Are

Image: Greg Raines. Like many teens I’ve worked with, I didn’t grow up in the most functional of families. I was born to a single mother who worked three or four jobs at any given point to make ends meet. Most nights she worked late. From the age of thirteen onward I spent many weeknights home alone in an empty house feeling lonely, sad, and angry. Of course I couldn’t articulate that at thirteen, but I was hurting, and I wanted to make the hurt go away. I turned to food.
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The Challenge of Being a Positive Parent

Image: Joshua Clay. The other day during a leadership seminar I’m taking, the instructor said something that really struck a chord with me. We were discussing motivation. He noted that, while people really need to motivate themselves, it is possible to create an environment that is conducive to motivation.
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