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Parenting Paralysis: What's Changed About Raising Children?

In this excerpt from Being a Grandparent: Just Like Being a Parent … Only Different!, Dr. Ray Guarendi answers a question from a concerned grandparent. I don’t recall questioning my parenting like parents do these days. My daughter has more self-doubts raising her six-year-old son than we did with all five of our children. What’s changed?
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Advice for Parents: Let Siblings Work It Out

  Let’s say I’m a nine-year-old boy. My sister is six. I’m bigger, stronger, and feistier. Is it in my interest to accommodate? Or would I be inclined to solve conflicts in my favor? Is self-love stronger than sibling love? Can you imagine my nine-year-old self saying to my sister, “OK, Harmony, let’s try to work this out. Since I’m the big brother, I will sacrifice. You play with the Legos first, all by yourself, for the next fifteen minutes. See, isn’t that better? And Mom can enjoy her nap.” If by some quirk of nature, you have a child like this, I’d say let him solve all conflicts. In fact, I’d say let him raise himself—and his sister, too.
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